Posts Tagged ‘self esteem’

Body tattoos are exhibit, Mind tattoos are they inhibits ????

May 8, 2009

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Few more University degrees than others does this make you a better educated person than others?
Humility born out of knowledge is divine,
Confidence born out of knowledge is good welcome and acceptable.
Arrogance born out of knowledge is Ignorance magnified.
Ignorance is trait born out of captive mind set.
Kupastha Mandukam are we one?? (Frog in well)
As Intellectuals, well we are not expected to be one.

Mind tattoos, the responsible factors for captive mind set
People are led by the captive mindsets which lead to inhibition and inaction
Mind tattoos, the responsible factors for captive mind set
“Dr Norman Vincent Peale the famous author was walking by a tattoo shop when a confused looking young man came out of the shop with a tattoo in his right arm that read “Born to Lose”. Dr Peale asked the tattoo artist about it and the tattoo artist replied…. “ I did ask the young man if he was sure that he wanted to state “Born to lose” in his arm and the young man was pretty stubborn in that. A surprised Dr Peale asked the tattoo artist – “Is’nt that surprising?” For which the artiste replied “Not really! Much before he tattooed it on his arm, he has firmly tattooed it in his brain, and his body tattoo act is just a reflection of his mind tattoo”.””

But what we tattoo on any part of the body for others to see is not as important as what we tattoo in our minds…. And positive, successful, energetic mind tattoos are a must to attain success…
So, it should be our conscious and subconscious endeavor to keep tattooing our mind with thoughts that are ONLY about winning, what we want be, want to reach, want to achieve, that perfect day as desired, ALL THAT IS SOUGHT BY US FOR A GREAT LIFE.
A few degrees less or more doesn’t decide whether you are intelligent, Creative leader

Creative people are full of curiosity.

Creative people are wonderstruck. They are tickled by the newness of every moment. They have lots of questions. They keep asking what, why, when, where and how.
A questioning mind is an open mind. It is not a knowing mind. Only an open mind can be creative. A knowing mind can never be creative.
A questioning stance sensitizes the mind in a very special way and it is able to sense what would have been missed otherwise.

Problems & the blame game
When there is a problem, some people can be seen wringing up their hands. Their first reaction is to look for someone to blame. Being faced with a problem becomes a problem. Such people can be called problem-averse.
Intelligent people, on the other hand, are problem-friendly. They just roll up their sleeves when faced with a problem. They see problems as opportunities to improve the quality of life. Being faced with a problem is never a problem.

Value ideas and suggestions from the colleagues

Creative people realize the value of an idea. They do not take any chance with something so important. They spot an opportunity in the ideas suggested by their colleagues.

Delegate and define responsibility to make them accountable & responsible.

Delegate and clearly define responsibilities to each member of the team. Allow them controlled discretion & inculcate a sense of responsibility & accountability in them. A responsible and winning team can only make you a winning leader.

Visible enthusiasm for achieving set goals

Effective leaders are enthusiastic about their goals. This enthusiasm works as fuel for their journey, propelling them to their goals. This is also extremely contagious and spreads fast in the team.

Perennially dissatisfied.

Leaders are acutely aware of their dissatisfactions and unfulfilled desires. However, this awareness does not frustrate them. Their frustration never reflects in their behavior with colleagues. As a matter of fact, they use this awareness as a stimulus to realize their dreams.

Be an optimist, regardless of adversities & constraints.

Creative people generally have a deeply held belief that most, if not all, problems can be solved. No challenge is too big to be overcome.
This doesn’t mean they are always happy and never depressed. They do have their bad moments but they don’t generally get stumped by a challenge.

Creative people make positive Judgment.

A new idea is delicate. It can be killed by a sneer or a yawn. It can be stabbed to death by a quip and worried to death by a right man’s brow – a businessman Charles Brower

The ability to hold off on judging or critiquing an idea is important in the process of creativity. Often great ideas start as crazy ones – if critique is applied too early the idea will be killed and never developed into something useful and useable.

This doesn’t mean there is no room for critique or judgment in the creative process but there is a time and place for it and creative people recognize that.

Academics excellence should not bring about arrogance of Endemic proportions

Your having more knowledge than your colleagues is the most natural thing and that should not make the other person less of a human being. If that knowledge gives you a sense of arrogance and self righteousness, You are endemic diseased get yourself cured immediately. Your superior knowledge should be used to help build ladders out of ignorance for lesser qualified colleagues & students.

Great people are good at reframing any situation.

Reframes are a different way of looking at things. Being able to reframe experiences and situations is a very powerful skill.
Reframing allows you to look at a situation from a different angle. It is like another camera angle in a cricket match. And a different view has the power to change your entire perception of the situation.
Reframing can breathe new life into dead situations. It can motivate demoralized teams. It helps you to spot opportunities that you would have otherwise missed.

It does not mean that excellent academics make you less educated. It only means that excellent academics & education are not interrelated directly or inversely. We had great academicians who were also excellent human beings. Dr. Rejendra Prasad, Dr. Radhakrishanan, Dr. Zakir Hussain, and Dr. Kalam. Remember our word action directly impacts the destiny of the future generations. Our actions should help to mould the youth to become future leaders and fulfill Dr. Kalam’s dream to lead India to lead the world by 2020.

Best wishes,

Shyam,

When clichés rhetoric’s fail, It is human values that win you hearts and bring Transformations.

February 16, 2009

When cliches rhetoric’s fail, It is human values that win you hearts and bring Transformations.

Qualities that make a good leader

Attitudes towards goals & goal setting for the team

It is important to take a personal and active look when setting the goals. Get into the shoes of the team members. Think analyze & understand the likely thought process of the team members the moods the attitudes, the fears, the resentments. Allow them to express & justify. Understand and agree with their justification. Bring them into totally non combative mood. Appeal to their human side.

One thing every one appreciates in a leader is honesty. One thing everyone hates in a leader is duplicity. If duplicity is a part of professional leadership, then it is better to be a personal leader than a professional one.

Explain to them how each member can help save a few jobs, or create a few jobs at the junior most level by reaching the goals. How many more can he help create by exceeding it?

Arouse the philanthropist in him and see how he suddenly becomes pro-active in goal setting process. The leader has to relate to the team directly intuitively & emphatically .the focus should clearly be on the substance of the decision including the repercussions.

Implementation  & Work.

It is important to understand that every member has his own approach to goal attainment listening to them in fact increases the options for the leader. So long as they go with the organizational policy, ideas should be encouraged. The best way of making most of the opportunity is accommodating the members thinking, even if it involves a little risk. This will ensure an involvement of heart soul & body into the task.

Human values require the leader to have a sense of self, an ability to profoundly alter the human, emotional, and economic relationship, the ability to feel separate from the organization. Here the order of preference is the team member, team, and organization.

I know the management purists may not agree with me. But as I said, when nothing works, It is the human values that get you through.

Best wishes,

Shyam

Esteem Elevation Highway to Employability

February 6, 2009

Esteem elevation the highway to employability

Self esteem elevation is very critical factor leading to employment. It is a natural tendency to be low on self esteem during unemployment. Add to this are the discouraging remarks of the friends and relatives. .Even well meaning people with their pity &sympathy hit a severe blow on your self esteem. Even false praise will do no good. Come on!!! We are mature enough to distinguish between true & false and it hurts.
How to elevate your self esteem?

Remember, not so long ago, you were employed, considered competent, even had boss & colleagues singing your praise. You cannot become incompetent suddenly. Your low self esteem is dominating your mind set and thought process. It needs to be rekindled

There are many things you are good at, May be they do not give you job or money, but they give you leadership status. You may be good at cooking, drawing, interiors, or any thing. Just before you structure your resume or before an important interview, do something you are good at, let people see and appreciate, you know it is genuine. You can even visit an orphanage and give pep talk to the less privileged. Management will also like it. This gives you a leadership status, now you are a giver not a seeker, being a giver always adds to the self esteem. When you attend the interview with high self esteem, you outperform beyond your own expectation.

No body can provide employment to anyone. One’s own talent at full bloom can do it, and that is possible only at elevated levels of self esteem. work on your self esteem. Go and conquer the world, and when you are employed, spread the good word, others will get motivated; this could well become the successful employment process.

Best of luck

Shyam